You sit down to meditate.
You try to clear your mind. You try to focus on your breath.
But your thoughts race. Your body twitches. You feel everything but peace.
So you get up, tell yourself “I’m just not good at this,” and move on.
You’re not broken. You’re not undisciplined.
You just haven’t been taught the kind of meditation that works for you.
The Myth: Meditation Is One-Size-Fits-All
Most people think meditation means sitting in silence and “not thinking.”
But that version of stillness was never designed for the modern, overstimulated nervous system.
Especially not for those living with anxiety, trauma, or high sensory input.
The truth is, not all meditation techniques are right for all people—and some can actually do more harm than good if they bypass the body.
Meditation isn’t about forcing silence.
It’s about learning how to be with yourself, gently, honestly, and consistently.
The Shift: Find the Right Practice for Your Nervous System
As a meditation coach based in Hawaii, I work with clients who’ve tried (and “failed”) traditional meditation approaches.
What they discover is that their nervous system didn’t need discipline—it needed attunement.
There are many paths into presence. Here are a few:
- Somatic meditation: Drop into the body rather than the breath. Feel your seat, your weight, your internal rhythms. This grounds you when the mind is too loud.
- Guided visualization: A gentle narrative that moves you through inner landscapes. Especially useful for creative minds and those who feel restless in silence.
- EFT + breathwork integration: Tap through your nervous system to release tension before entering stillness. Helpful for emotionally charged or anxious states.
- Cycle-based or emotional-state-based meditation: A practice tailored to your current phase of life, hormonal cycle, or emotional landscape.
The key is not which method is “best”—but which method speaks to your body’s truth right now.
Finding your practice
Meditation isn’t about spiritual performance.
It’s about building trust with your own presence.
That means:
- Choosing tools that meet you where you are
- Being honest about what’s actually supportive (vs what looks “spiritual”)
- Honoring your body’s cues and working with, not against, your physiology
- Practicing in ways that restore your nervous system—not overwhelm it further
This is especially important if you’re healing trauma, managing chronic stress, or dealing with emotional dysregulation.
What I Offer
I don’t teach a single method.
I offer meditation mentorship—a relationship with your practice, not a prescription.
Together, we explore:
- What kind of meditation best suits your nervous system
- How to develop a rhythm that actually works in your life
- Practices that support emotional regulation and deep rest
- Techniques drawn from Vipassana, somatic inquiry, guided journeys, EFT, and more
Whether you’re brand new or returning to practice after years away, you deserve a path that feels true, not forced.
The Invitation
If you’ve ever thought:
“I’m too anxious to meditate.”
“My mind’s too busy.”
“Meditation just doesn’t work for me.”
You’re exactly who this work is for.
Stillness isn’t the goal.
Relationship with yourself is.
And there is a way in—for everyone.
Let’s find yours.
B. Christopher Francis 
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